Relationships are Truly Equal

When looking at Relationships I find that when you look past gender roles, the phenotype of gender etc. You find what is at the heart of relationships Love or one looking for love. Relationships of Men and Women, Man and Man, or Woman and woman. Are all Looking for love from another, this goes beyond the physical touch of affection, but instead a trust a feeling of knowing someone is there to support, listen, and accept with understanding, compassion, and above all else Love. This is what we all want and need to have a health center of well being. And i ask you, who says that is wrong. so when i look at relationships i look at that and that is what i find in them. Relationships of all kinds are equal and should be looked at in that way. equal for men and women, gay and straight, Black and white, and for richer or poorer. LOVE is what we all want and should have a right to have.

Masculinity as Homophobia by Michael S. Kimmel

In the Article Masculinity as Homophobia, Michael S. Kimmel is claiming that Homophobia is basically the result of hyper masculinity. Hyper masculinity is the emphasis on stereotypical gender roles that are placed on men for example men being tough and strong. These ideas are placed by society and then also by men in society which leads to a idea of how a man should act in society and how a man should act with another man in society as well. With this idea of male stereotypical gender roles it has placed a idea of what men are and what don’t fit in that box are to be judge and be called homosexual. Kimmel says in the article that “the great secret of American manhood: we are afraid of other men.” This statement states the obvious men are afraid of other men, and I agree with this statement. Men are always in a competition with each other either at sports are who has the better job, house, car, wife, etc. This is easily seen now days form movies to television shows, even personal a lot of the men we know in our lives fit into the mold of what he is saying. They become in fear of not being up to a level of a man and struggle to out man others. What is important for a man to be a man is left up to what each considers to be that some are money and nice things others it is the way a man holds himself. He goes on to write that “violence is often the single most evident marker of manhood.” This goes with the competition of men. In history all the wars and battle where all started by men, not a single women from what I recall started a war. Even today in the news all political and world events are all by men. But even the media plays apart in the men of everyday life all of the movies and show’s that are geared to men are mostly violent and action packed. If one is to look at the hate crimes that take place I can’t remember any that is done by a woman. So his statement in my opinion really hits and makes a very simple but true statement about men and their homophobia. Kimmel ask the question “how do you know if a man is homosexual?” We all can say by the way he walks, talks, actions, attitude are all stereotypical female based behavior. Again this is the opposite of what we perceive as a man in our society. I have been judge in this way as well one experience that I have had was at work I was standing with my hands on my hip and one of the other employees said something about my posture. This idea of masculinity is apart of all of us and our idea of gender roles. During his classes and events he did the same thing and all said the same thing as well. What really stuck out to me is what he said the women said that “she knows a man is gay if he really cares about her, and if he show shows no interest in her and leaves her alone”. This says to me that even women have been affected by men idea of masculinity. In the story I gave about myself this was stated by a woman, which again even say that women are ingrain with the idea of what and how a man should be according to society. “homophobia, the fear of being perceived as gay, as not a real man, keeps men exaggerating all the traditional rules of masculinity, including sexual predation with women.” This statement is very important and says where homophobia comes from is what men are afraid of not fitting into the mold of a man. Where this idea comes from could be many things, but I feel comes from the male evolutionary process of humans. Cavemen where always the providers for cavewomen and to prove that they could provide were why cavewoman would mate with them. This has kept going through out time and even today. In my experience I have know heterosexual men who feel threaten by a woman who has intimate friendships with homosexual men, and have made statements that suggest there aggregation and insecurity towards them because of that. I feel it makes men threaten that women will become more incline to become of having and idea that men should become more like the friendships they have with homosexual men. This is idea is becoming more ingrain in our society due to shows like “girls who loves boys who loves boys.” This idea has became on men as well the term “meterosexual” has became in use for men who dress and groom well and even in the style an society idea of homosexual dress and grooming habits. Most men who have taken up Meterosexuality says they do it for women because they like it. Feminist women say that masculinity is the drive for domination according to Kimmel. And this statement also I agree with, men have always been leaders from the household to running a country. So to dominate is in mens blood, it has came to light that men are infer in the last couple of decades due to the slow progressive of equality of women and men. Where women have become more in leadership roles or view to become in leadership roles. These has lead men to become more and more focused on other men due to the fact that women are getting more respect and leadership views of that of men. Where men are trying to still dominate in a sense by trying to judge others due to competing with women and homosexual men. Where growing women have become more independent and not depending on men and forming relationships with homosexual men. I agree with Kimmel homophobia is due to masculinity, if masculinity was to become less that what we hold it today. Homophobia would be not there because men would not be competing with other men. Male idea’s and feeling toward other men are based on being the best and being appealing towards the opposite sex. If this was to be taken out of the equation men would be better understanding and supportive each other and even homosexuals and women. To Read More go to: http://www.neiu.edu/~circill/F7587Z.pdf

Map of Gay Rights and Marriage

Found this on a website (http://www.news.com.au/national-old/gay-marriage-data-interactive/story-e6frfkw0-1225961445853) thought it was interesting on how far or how lacking the world is on gay rights and marriage..........

A Chart to Compare or maybe see how similar we Really Are

This chart shows a lot of comparing against straight and gay couples its amazing how similar a lot of the area's on the chart are............... So are we really that different???????????

Media embracing Other Relationships and Family

In Most Recent years we have seen a increase in media showing GLBT relationships, will and grace, queer as folk, the L word...... now days the shift is moving to GLBT families. When watching these it makes me think really are these families that different you be the judge..............

Public Display is only for Heterosexuals????

Should Public Display only be for Heterosexuals??? Whats your Feelings on this????

Kill The Gays

Uganda to officially pass ‘Kill The Gays’ bill Speaker Rebecca Kadaga has said 2009's Anti-Homosexuality Bill will become law by the end of 2012 12 NOVEMBER 2012 | BY JOE MORGAN Uganda will officially pass the ‘Kill The Gays’ bill at the end of this year despite international criticism. Speaker Rebecca Kadaga said the anti-gay bill will become law by December since most Ugandans ‘are demanding it’. Referring to the law as a ‘Christmas gift’ to the population, she spoke of ‘the serious threat’ posed by homosexuals. The law will broaden the criminalization of same-sex relationships by dividing homosexuality into two categories; aggravated homosexuality and the offense of homosexuality. ‘Aggravated homosexuality’ is defined as gay acts committed by parents or authority figures, HIV-positive people, pedophiles and repeat offenders. If convicted, they will face the death penalty. The ‘offense of homosexuality’ includes same-sex sexual acts or being in a gay relationship, and will be prosecuted by life imprisonment. Originally put to government in 2009, the Anti-Homosexuality Bill had been temporarily shelved because of international criticism. Several European countries have threatened to cut aid to Uganda if it passes, with the UK government warning Uganda it would face severe reductions in financial help. US President Barack Obama has described it as ‘odious’, and Canadian politician John Baird has said it is ‘vile, abhorrent, and offends decency’. Uganda lawmaker Atim Ogwal Cecilia Barbara has even suggested there should be a continent-wide ban on homosexuality, saying all African gay people should be jailed for life. Gay rights activist David Kato was murdered in Uganda in January 2011 shortly after a local newspaper published images of him and other gay people under a headline urging readers to ‘hang them.’ Despite this, Uganda’s LGBT community held a weekend of gay pride events this summer. According to a 2010 survey by The Pew Research Center, homosexuality is morally unacceptable to 89% of Ugandans.

Gay Marriage Vs. Straight Marriage

BEST LOVE TIPS! 50 gay and straight experts tips about sex and relations...

thought this video was cute and funny and did have some really good points about love and relationships..............let me know what you think. I do not own or have anything to do with this short video.....

ARE All Relationships Equal

Wondering what other's think when they look at the relationships of heterosexuals and homosexuals are they the same?  we don't look at the exterior of these relationships but the interaction between the couple are they any different.  I would like to begin with this and look at what or may not be the same.........please keep a open mind and be respectful......